Proverbs 17:14 Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.
Bam. It's like that V8 commercial - I just got slapped in the forehead. I have heard that saying "pick your battles" but man, I am the first one go admit that I will pick a battle and beat it to death. I don't know how to let things go, especially when I feel as though I have been wronged.
A few verses later I stumble upon this verse 19:13b "...and a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping"
I am sure we have all heard our fair sure of faucets that will not shut off and man it is unbearably annoying. I tend to bring up the same quarrel again and again with my husband. I can't seem to bite my tongue, especially when I feel I am right.
Wives, how do you do it? I need some advice badly! I want to be able to drop the matter before I start a quarrel and I don't want to be annoying to my husband by constantly bringing them same thing up.
How do you solve conflict in your marriage?
I recently read these verses too. I particularly like, "Don't have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments..." 2 Tim. 22-23
ReplyDeleteI work on this every day. It is that built up societal need to be Ms. Strong Independent "I stand my ground" woman - especially in my family where they were upset that our pastor used the word "submit" during our wedding ceremony. So it is super difficult to just bite my tongue sometimes. However, every time I do, I reap the benefits. If it is something that really hurts my feelings, I will wait until I am calm and then approach the subject. Usually we will arrive at a solution and all will always be forgiven.
In engagement counseling, we learned never to bring up a past argument. Once something is forgiven, leave it there.
Looks like we are both working on this. I need help too!
blessings,
brittany @ www.myabcsoup.blogspot.com
Great post Missy! Know that just like Brittany says, everyone is working on this. When you think "she never does THAT to her man" it's not you or God talking.
ReplyDeleteDon't compare (that's a big one) and pray, pray, pray! The Power of a Praying Wife is fab-u-lous. I can't speak to any of the other "Power" books because I haven't read them, but I believe they are just as fabulous. This book has taught me to pray my way through. And, praying for him has helped me pray for me too.
Keep going girl. Know that you're not alone and NO ONE has it all together (no matter how it might seem). Going into conversations, armed with God and His word, is much better then walking in alone, hurt and angry.
You're fearfully and wonderfully made, specifically for your husband!
PRACTICE! Though it has yet to make perfect! :) Wanting to be God's best for you is the first step Missie!
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